I’ve been with my boyfriend for about a year.
Long story short, we both worked at a wedding florist for about 5 years together – he worked in the production area with my cousins, and I worked in the office with his mom. It was one of those work environments at the time where a lot of the employees were either relatives or friends of someone’s.
We talked and were slightly friends – I went to his 21st birthday party (which is crazy to think back on, because who knew!?) – but we weren’t like hang out buddies. He was with his first love and I was with mine, both caught up in those hot mess relationships. hehe.
After we both left the florist at different times, I didn’t see or speak to him for about 6 years. Then one day he sent me a Facebook message to catch up. I was recently single at the time, so I figured why not. I wasn’t going with any “hook-up” intentions. He was fully aware of what I was just coming out of and what was going on in my life, and I told him I wasn’t looking to jump right into anything.
However, after our second “hang out” he asked me to marry him. He said he was a man who knows what he wants and acts on it. I laughed it off of course and told him that he was the first person to propose to me, never mind especially after hanging out ONLY twice!
So eventually our friendship became a relationship, and he’s been very open and honest about getting married. He’s proposed “unofficially” many of times – me always laughing it off and saying, ‘Oh yeah, where’s the ring?’ It’s sort of become this joke between us.
I know that one day it will be official, but until then we talk about our wedding plans like our budget, the venue, or options, etc. Even his mom has discussed it with us. Sometimes it’s a bit frustrating because it’s like we can talk all we want, but until it’s official, there’s no point in guessing and suggesting anything until we can find out answers and lock things into place. We talk about it sometimes so much that I just want to say F*** it, we are engaged, just give me the ring when you can! haha.
So I was just wondering, have you ever talked to your significant other about getting married before your engaged? And if so, how does it make you feel?